Nettie Cullen - Psychologist

Sometimes in the midst of the the grind of parenthood it can be easy to miss the magical moments. Here is Donald Winnicott - the Nigel Latta of the 60's and 70's - encouraging new mothers not to take the magic for granted...

So here you are with all your eggs in one basket. What are you going to do about it? Well, enjoy yourself! Enjoy bieng thought important. Enjoy letting other people look after the world while you are producing a new one of its members. Enjoy being turned-in and almost in love with yourself, the baby is so nearly a part of you. Enjoy the way in which your man feels responsible for the welfare of you and your baby. Enjoy finding out new things about yourself. Enjoy having more right that you have ever had before to do just what you feel is good ... enjoy all this for your own sake, but the pleasure which you can get out of the messy business of infant care happens to be vitally important from the baby's point of view ... the baby takes for granted all things like the softness of the clothes and having the bath water at the right temperature. What cannot be taken for granted is the mother's pleasure that goes with the clothing and the bathing of her own baby. If you are there enjoying it all, it is like hte sun coming out for the baby.